Once more:
Before any of this or any of that we have a basic disagreement on when the fetus becomes a walking talking feeling working human being. Again you base your end of the discussion on "the human life being taken" and take for granted everyone holds your definition of " human life." I for one don't. So yes , to my mind it is about the mother.
That does not make me "for abortion" . But what I am is in favor of allowing a person to decide . What I am for is creating an environment where abortion is not a best / worst option. Where people can become pregnant and welcome the opportunity to nurture a child. Where an already troubled person does not have to deal with the issues / moral indignity the Pro-Life contingent throws their way . Because of their certainty in their rightness