There's nothing to discuss. You're a boomer trying to explain away racism as if it isn't the spawn of "The Right". You're wrong, as conservatives have been consistently on all important social issues facing this country since its inception, and change is going to happen despite you kicking and screaming that it's not needed. Just like it always has despite the complaints of conservatwits.
"The Right" playbook when faced with progressive ideas on social issues has been the same for hundreds of years (downplaying, blame shifting, playing the victim), and you are simply keeping up with the tradition. Just like every single other social issue of any importance (gay rights, civil rights, desegregation, safety nets, labor rights, and even slavery itself), folks will look back 25 years later and say "why were those idiots arguing against those reforms?".
Oh right...THIS time is different. THIS time the conservatwits are right. Yeah...not so much.