I don't know if she's the one or not. I think everyone here knows I'm a Democrat and have been actively involved in government and politics all my adult life, but I supported Obama over her in 2008 for a variety of reasons, not the least of which was Clinton fatigue (which still plagues me).
As far as "who married who," Bill has gotten as much mileage out of the marriage as she has. I have worked on a variety of education issues during my career, and Hillary Clinton was all about early childhood education long before it was in vogue nationally. I think a lot of her legal thought surrounding early childhood and family issues promotes a viewpoint that is too intrusive (read: nanny state), but her work, while not profound, has added value to that discussion. I actually saw both the Clintons speak (in different venues) in the early-1990s (pre-White House) and her speech was a lot better. I realize one speech is an extremely small sample size, but I have always found her positions to be informed.
That doesn't mean I agree with her or expect others to agree with her. I think the difference between her and Bill and I think Hillary actually has a more defined set of core beliefs. I think Bill is a process guy who really enjoyed sitting in the Big Chair. Great politician and expert political tactician, but a little wanting at the core. I think it's easier to disagree with Hillary because she actually puts herself out there. And I think that worthy of some measure of respect.
I thought she did a decent job at State, but Benghazi will haunt her whether the blame can be appropriately laid on her desk or not.