The point is that ultimately the disagreement is over policy and interpretation of facts, which is fine. The disagreement isn't about "do politicians try to scare people into voting for them," because it's pretty clear that both sides do that quite consistently. People just only see it as fear-mongering for the side they disagree with.
From my viewpoint, both parties fear monger but their solutions to the fear mongering are wildly different.
Generally, the left requires restrictions of liberty and more power to the state
Generally, the right tries to play defense and stay out of my life
Please note, the use of the word "generally"
For example.... the left talks about climate change... the world is gonna end in 12 years, ya know? And how do we stop that? Well, easy! Pass a $100 trillion centralized spending effort on socialist wishlist called the green new deal. While you're at it, we're gonna have to tax you on your carbon... and we're going to have restrict how much meat you can eat. It's for the environment afterall, and unless you want to kill all of civilization, these are sacrifices you will have to make.
The right's view on climate change is there is much we don't know. But generally, private enterprise is doing a much better job of innovating technology to reduce emissions... let's get out of their way to let them solve it.
How about covid? The left explains that even if we are healthy, we are risking killing grandma by breathing. In order to solve this issue... we must keep our kids out of schools, quit our jobs, muzzle our faces, not go to church, not congregate at all. We must take a medicine in order to have those freedoms back. If we don't like that, we are selfish grandma killers. Meanwhile, we will unilaterally decide to borrow and print trillions of dollars in order further make us dependent on the government to survive. It's how it has to be to beat this virus that has a 99.95 survival rate and freely available vaccines to those that want it.
With guns... the left insists we have to pass laws that do nothing for mass shootings but instead erode on the millions of law abiding gun owners 2nd amendment rights... and if we don't support that, then it must mean we support mass killings.
I can go on about this... but overall point is the
solutions the left demands in order to avoid their fear mongering is destruction of our rights and liberty. The right has done this as well... particularly in foreign policy. It was the middle eastern fear mongering that drove me away from the GOP... luckily, Trump brought back a strand of non-interventionism that this country hasn't seen in decades and I'm hopeful it is here to stay.